February 5, 2012

Helping Children Cope With Doctor’s Visits

House / Playing Doctor 

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Doctor’s visits can be hard for adults so just imagine how difficult it can be for children. The buildings are often large and cold in spite of efforts to the contrary and with all the sick people sitting around, children may wonder if the place causes illnesses. A routine visit can be overwhelming but there are some ways to help them cope.

Read a children’s book about doctors

Many times we take for granted that children know what doctors do and some parents may believe it is not necessary for a child to know. Imagine if you were going to a strange man in a white jacket who wanted to look down your throat and you had no idea why! Reading a book about what doctors do can make them more comfortable with the idea.

Explain the visit beforehand

Preparing a child the day before will help a child deal with negative emotions and give them time to ask questions. Dragging a child into an unusual place without preparation can cause anxiety.Giving them an explanation of what will happen can cause them to feel more at ease and even look forward to the experience.

Play doctor

Children learn and process things through play time. Dress up as a doctor and walk your child through some of the activities they will experience. Look into their eyes, ears, throat and create fun by making up silly request like “do jumping jacks” Allow the child to be the doctor and be a willing patient, by the time the actual visit comes around they will feel secure and more willing to participate.

 

Helping a child cope with sick siblings

Sibling Shot 

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It is hard enough for parents to deal with children that suffer with illnesses but when additional children are also part of the equation, the stress and concerns can be unbearable. Sadness, fear, jealousy,worry, guilt are just some of the emotions children endure when their siblings are ill. Already burdened parents may not even consider the stress the other children are under or they may feel guilty themselves for the pressures on the family.

Help children cope by providing a listening ear

A child that is healthy physically may be struggling emotionally. Ask how they are feeling and allow them to express themselves without being angry or judgemental. If you routinely get the answer “fine” or “o.k.” with no elaboration, have them write down what they are most scared of, excited about or worried about. Giving them a prompt may get the ball rolling.

Have a special time for the healthy child

Children with siblings that are ill often feel neglected and then feel guilty because of it. Having a time set aside for the well child to do something fun or spend quality time with mom or dad can go a long way in maintaining important relationships and showing the child that they are still important.

Let them help

Adults are not the only ones who have feelings of helplessness. Show a sibling that they are needed by teaching them simple tasks to help their brother or sister, this will create family unity and prevent feelings of isolation. Do not force a child to participate using threats or guilt but do give them the opportunity to be involved.

Maintaining Your Child-Like Innocence

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Children laugh, cry, and observe. But far and away the most valuable quality that children possess is their ability to appreciate. Their innocence incepted at birth reigns clear throughout their maturation process. Their excitement is palpable over seemingly mundane objects, festivities, and games. Playing with everything and anything, they see beauty in the colorless, wisdom in the speechless, and calm in the chaos. A witness to everything that life has to offer and yet their comprehension level limited, children can serve as a reminder of ourselves at a point when we saw the world differently.
When we feel overwhelmed and burdened by the life we have created for ourselves as adults, we can often lose sight of the true meaning behind these moral lives of ours; meaning we strive to understand throughout a lifetime and yet acquire insight into as we move forward with each day. When questioned about how some people in the elderly population have been able to survive as long as they have, a common answer is, "I didn’t let myself get old."
Beyond the scope of disease, accidents, and depression, the will to survive the mounting stress and feat that often drives the adult population to give up on the beauty in life in many arenas in their lives, exists the power to maintain a child-like innocence without deceptively convincing oneself they are invincible. There are real threats in our world, small and large, and yet the ability to tap into our sophisticated naivety can be paramount in managing the ups and downs we experience.
Taking the time to view a situation, person, or experience through the lens of a child can lead to an astute understanding of what we can glean from this life. When money problems arise, relationship issues take over, or you fall victim to other’s callousness, you may just want to take the time to blow up a balloon, swing on the swings, or talk to a child for their advice, as often the most infantile components of our worlds can provide the most sound insight if you are open to it.

Children laugh, cry, and observe. But far and away the most valuable quality that children possess is their ability to appreciate. Their innocence incepted at birth reigns clear throughout their maturation process. Their excitement is palpable over seemingly mundane objects, festivities, and games. Playing with everything and anything, they see beauty in the colorless, wisdom in the speechless, and calm in the chaos. A witness to everything that life has to offer and yet their comprehension level limited, children can serve as a reminder of ourselves at a point when we saw the world differently.
When we feel overwhelmed and burdened by the life we have created for ourselves as adults, we can often lose sight of the true meaning behind these moral lives of ours; meaning we strive to understand throughout a lifetime and yet acquire insight into as we move forward with each day. When questioned about how some people in the elderly population have been able to survive as long as they have, a common answer is, "I didn’t let myself get old."
Beyond the scope of disease, accidents, and depression, the will to survive the mounting stress and feat that often drives the adult population to give up on the beauty in life in many arenas in their lives, exists the power to maintain a child-like innocence without deceptively convincing oneself they are invincible. There are real threats in our world, small and large, and yet the ability to tap into our sophisticated naivety can be paramount in managing the ups and downs we experience.
Taking the time to view a situation, person, or experience through the lens of a child can lead to an astute understanding of what we can glean from this life. When money problems arise, relationship issues take over, or you fall victim to other’s callousness, you may just want to take the time to blow up a balloon, swing on the swings, or talk to a child for their advice, as often the most infantile components of our worlds can provide the most sound insight if you are open to it.

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